Friday, 29 April 2011

Chat to us on Twitter about adoption


BAAF launched its very first Twitter Chat last night, which focused on adoption. Read on below for a transcript of the chat, which included help and advice from a BAAF expert, plus adoptive and prospective adoptive parents. Most recent tweets appear first.


bizzylizzyme
@spursblogger DS friend-a careleaver, just dropped out of 6th form. School told me he'd failed *them*. I nearly took a pop!#adoptfosterchat


bizzylizzyme
@spursblogger @gayadoptiondad older children adoption? Count me in! #adoptfosterchat


rosiechook
@BAAFAdoption #adoptfosterchat glad it went well even though you had to evacuate at one point! #allinadayswork#happyroyalweddingday


Theresauno
@adoptiondiary Earlier post from BAAF said 'Pop along to our bloghttp://bit.ly/h7qn9v tomorrow for the round-up :) #adoptfosterchat


LoveYouPhoto
@Nico2lette @baafadoption as adoptive parents to two girls - just enjoying life with them is enough. :) #adoptfosterchat


adoptiondiary
Oh gosh... totally missed #adoptfosterchat - *hides like naughty schoolgirl*


ins_foundations
Oh dear, my twitter stopped working half way through the#adoptfosterchat sorry to have missed the last part!


CazbatTweets
@Nico2lette Reading that makes me smile. Thank you.#adoptfosterchat


AdoptResources
Great to meet lots of #adoptfosterchat tweeters-looking forward to the next one-thanks @baafadoption : )


AdoptResources
@PottiJo @Memma_Pie @GayAdoptionDad @BAAFAdoption I'm with Jo on that one-depends on child's needs and support available#adoptfosterchat


Mum2Rocky_Mally
@PottiJo Is there any other services you think would be good to tell schools about? #adoptfosterchat


Mum2Rocky_Mally
@PottiJo Who would you recommend schools to ask help for? I work with Targeted Mental Health in Schools so offer support#adoptfosterchat


spursblogger
@memma_pie placement choice is key. For young people and SWs trying to find the right match. Adoption sound alternative#adoptfosterchat


Theresauno
@Memma_Pie @GayAdoptionDad @BAAFAdoption What age do you take to be 'older'? T #adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
@Memma_Pie @GayAdoptionDad @BAAFAdoption I do think it rather depends on ages and situation :) #adoptfosterchat


Memma_Pie
@GayAdoptionDad @BAAFAdoption #adoptfosterchat I disagree w/ older child adoption. Think it should be special guardianship or kinship


PottiJo
@Mum2Rocky_Mally Indeed and I so think there is help for schools - they just need to ask! #adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
Oh if anyone missed my Radio4 Interview on Saturday DM me and I'll send the link. #adoptfosterchat


swampymarsh
1st #adoptfosterchat huge success. IT Manager highlight: Fire alarm forcing the operation into the street! #lifeisneverdull


BAAFAdoption
@spursblogger Next #adoptfosterchat will take place Tuesday, May 31 and will focus on foster care - spread the word!


PottiJo
@BAAFAdoption Whoop whoop ... seemed to work well. Well done.#adoptfosterchat.


spursblogger
@baafadoption thanks to Louise and everyone at BAAF. Only one further question - when's the next one? #adoptfosterchat


Theresauno
@GayAdoptionDad Definitely.... and children with special needs. T*#adoptfosterchat


CazbatTweets
@Scottish_Mum Ours too #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
Pop along to our blog http://bit.ly/h7qn9v tomorrow for the round-up :) #adoptfosterchat


Theresauno
@BAAFAdoption Thanx for hosting...look forward to the next one. T#adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
For anyone who missed it/anyone seeking a recap, we'll be posting a blog entry of all tweets tomorrow #adoptfosterchat


AdoptResources
@BAAFAdoption you're welcome - enjoyed it #adoptfosterchat


Scottish_Mum
@PottiJo #adoptfosterchat ours offers little more than platitudes.


spursblogger
RT @gayadoptiondad: #adoptfosterchat seemed successful! Need to promote older children adoption! <absolutely. Campaign I think


PottiJo
@Theresauno Yeah SW here workd hard. Life story work, history, etc very fully explored so adopters informed #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
For more info and advice, see here: http://bit.ly/mFGCam and here:http://bit.ly/igzRFy #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
Thanks to everyone for participating in the first #adoptfosterchat - an amazing turnout!


PottiJo
@GayAdoptionDad Indeed, older children harder to place and sometimes need additional support #adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
@Scottish_Mum Indeed. The authority I work in offers tons of support post adoption if people would like it. #adoptfosterchat


GayAdoptionDad
#adoptfosterchat seemed successful! Need to promote older children adoption!


Theresauno
In defense of S/W I have 2 say all my foster children gone on 2 b adopted n S/Ws FULLY informd adopters of past.#adoptfosterchat.


Scottish_Mum
RT @PottiJo: @CazbatTweets yes sadly some people think once child adopted life is rosy. #adoptfosterchat / or no more support needed


PottiJo
I'm not sure I need to say thanks for being adopted.#adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
@Nico2lette If you have a positive story to share, why not think about becoming an adoption champion? http://bit.ly/iCzZer#adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
@Nico2lette Thanks to whom? #adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
@AdoptResources @CazbatTweets in fact early expereinces are often minimised or labelled as something else #adoptfosterchat


Nico2lette
@BAAFAdoption #adoptfosterchat how do you say thanx for being adopted....?


PottiJo
@AdoptResources Indeed.... and thats excatly what the Primal Wound is all about. #adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
Of course there are schools that offer brilliant support to their families of adopted children #adoptfosterchat


AdoptResources
@PottiJo @CazbatTweets one of my bugbears-impact of early experiences doesn't change with legal status #adoptfosterchat


spursblogger
@ins_foundations not negative. Realistic. Combination of realism, optimism and positivity that characterises adopters.#adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
@CazbatTweets yes sadly some people think once child adopted life is rosy. #adoptfosterchat


ins_foundations
@bizzylizzyme I use the boards, dont know where i'd be without them! #adoptfosterchat


CazbatTweets
#adoptfosterchat If I had known chasm between school support for looked after v adopted children, wld have been tempted to delay legal side.


spursblogger
@bizzylizzyme rotten though, eh? Selfevidently important, shame when children, young people in need are not a priority...#adoptfosterchat


ins_foundations
Gosh I am being negative tonight! Something positive - I have 2 AMAZING children and adoption made that possible :-D#adoptfosterchat


MeandMiniMees
"@bizzylizzyme: Anyone else here from AUK boards?#adoptfosterchat" me!


BAAFAdoption
Panic over, I can confirm that we are now BACK INSIDE THE BUILDING #adoptfosterchat #firealarminterlude


MeandMiniMees
#adoptfosterchat great book for ideas - 99 ways to drive your kids sane


ins_foundations
Many teachers do not even know the diff between adoption and fostering, what hope is there for understanding of attachment?#adoptfosterchat


spursblogger
@baafadoption it's the devotion I've come to expect from BAAF, but never take for granted #adoptfosterchat


CazbatTweets
#adoptfosterchat We've been really lucky with schools. Post adoption support has been virtually non existent so v grateful.


PottiJo
@BAAFAdoption Books are ok but interactive workshops would be useful maybe on inset days #adoptfosterchat


bizzylizzyme
Anyone else here from AUK boards? #adoptfosterchat


ins_foundations
@BAAFAdoption I shouldnt laugh, but I can just picture you!#adoptfosterchat


spursblogger
@pottijo I'm seeing it already. Cuts biting. SWs keen to do their best, reality being stretched beyond breaking point#adoptfosterchat


MeandMiniMees
@adopdad Louise bomber is good at school info too#adoptfosterchat


bizzylizzyme
Teachers don't know about normal child dev, so what hope for attachment etc? Academies miss out on LEA INSET too#adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
Apologies for delay in replying - our fire alarm just went off so we're tweeting from the street! #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
Please see list of all our education-related publications:http://tinyurl.com/6awkn87 #adoptfosterchat


bizzylizzyme
@spursblogger exactly! not a priority :-) #adoptfosterchat


ins_foundations
I really like the attachment in classroom book, also inside i'm hurting#adoptfosterchat


Theresauno
@spursblogger ....foster self identity. That said each case needs to be considered separately as all individuals. T #adoptfosterchat


adopdad
#adoptfosterchat are there any fora for teachers where #adoptionissues are discussed #teachers cc @BAAFAdoption


Theresauno
@spursblogger agree, Kids need families bt best p/ment wud be wiv family of same ethnic b/ground to help ........ #adoptfosterchat


bizzylizzyme
Trouble is school thinks they're experts, DS ok academically & we're over-fussy as we're not quite real parents #adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
@spursblogger And also with impending cuts to front line services too #adoptfosterchat


MeandMiniMees
#adoptfosterchat brilliant book. Bit heavy going at times, but very helpful


spursblogger
@pottijo yep, SWs massively overstretched precisely at time when their work, duties ever more complex, subtle #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
@bizzylizzyme Another text you may find useful on helping looked after children to learn http://bit.ly/lN9LhE #adoptfosterchat


Scottish_Mum
#adoptfosterchat the school issue is bigger than just foster / adopt, special needs. High crossover.


MeandMiniMees
"@BAAFAdoption: BAAF offers training for teachers: bit.ly/lscgjG#adoptfosterchat" wish the Minis teachers would!


BAAFAdoption
Please see helpful book in relation to education and emotional wellbeing: http://bit.ly/iPFk1E #adoptfosterchat


jj2008ed
#adoptfosterchat we both white and have a dual heritage son and about to adopt similar girl. Real challenges ahead but joyously happy


spursblogger
..whole issue needs better ways of evaluating what identity means for each and every individual child #adoptfosterchat


bizzylizzyme
@ins_foundations @BAAFAdoption Exactly! We found school really resistant to understanding. 6th form is a bit better ...#adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
@BAAFAdoption Actualy in reality the person in the school with responsibility has 20 other things as well! #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
BAAF offers training for teachers: http://bit.ly/lscgjG#adoptfosterchat


spursblogger
Should increase options for children and enhances prof judgement but concerned identity issues pushed further down agenda#adoptfosterchat


bizzylizzyme
@BAAFAdoption Primary was fine but 2ndary has been a battle & SENCO "blind" to adoption. In yr 12 now so game over :-)#adoptfosterchat


ins_foundations
@BAAFAdoption @bizzylizzyme Unfortunately not a reality as so many adopted/Looked after children are misunderstood.#adoptfosterchat


spursblogger
@ins_foundations good question, not easy answer never mind 140 characters, but...#adoptfosterchat


MeandMiniMees
#adoptfosterchat I can't believe how much has happened since the Minis moved. One huge rollercoaster!


ins_foundations
@bizzylizzyme check out my website when you have time, its something we are working on #adoptfosterchat


bizzylizzyme
@BAAFAdoption Better turnout than I thought! :-) #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
@bizzylizzyme Each school should have a designated teacher with awreness and understanding of looked after children#adoptfosterchat


Scottish_Mum
placing chidren with families regardless ethnicity?#adoptfosterchat” /friend did, fab family, little boy who would not be placed otherwise.


AdoptResources
@JennyFlintoft thanks mrs ; ) #adoptfosterchat


AdoptResources
@jj2008ed fab! 4yo will probably start playing up to keep you on your toes ; ) #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
Brilliant turnout for first #adoptfosterchat!


bizzylizzyme
Schools are not at all clued up about adoption. Something BAAF could look into? #adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
@Theresauno Absolutely agree. The match is so so important.#adoptfosterchat


Scottish_Mum
“@CazbatTweets fancy meeting you here lol #adoptfosterchat”


Theresauno
I guess one of the other major considerations for S/W is makin a good match n ensurin adopters r fully informed about child#adoptfosterchat


ianrobsons
Love seeing our children grow in confidence and laugh again#adoptfosterchat


Scottish_Mum
“@jj2008ed (open adoption) #adoptfosterchat” / I'd say depends on birth family and if it is causing stress to the children.


spursblogger
.I really feel for adopters in that situation My view? courts more child centred, SWs more proactive keep timescale hustle!#adoptfosterchat


ins_foundations
Personally I do not think it will change. A friend recently enquired about a child of diff ethnicity & was told absolute NO#adoptfosterchat


justmesathere
#adoptfosterchat adoption is the gold at the end of a rainbow,the sparkle in fairy dust + love in your mothers eyes.Love in it's true form!


BAAFAdoption
@AdoptionAli If you need further help & advice, please see here:http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat


Scottish_Mum
“@CazbatTweets: @adopdad Most positive thing is they have gifts you can only dream of. My kids are sporty #adoptfosterchat” / mine too


ins_foundations
What are peoples views on the new guidance of placing chidren with families regardless of ethnicity? #adoptfosterchat


spursblogger
...court requires SWs to find adopters early, good planning in theory, in practice adopters sometimes hang on for months.#adoptfosterchat


jj2008ed
@AdoptResources @ yes. Taking 13 months off work and wife work part time so lots of chance for 1 on 1. #adoptfosterchat


ianrobsons
Key to progress with adoption post placement for us was teamwork and keeping perspective #adoptfosterchat


wifeofacurate
#adoptfosterchat best thing about adoption: being privileged to be a parent of a lovely darling boy


spursblogger
@pottijo @Memma_Pie agree, especially if parents contest or as often happens where SWs have to explore other family#adoptfosterchat


Scottish_Mum
“@AdoptResources: @adopdad best thing-watching them grow + develop into amazing people #adoptfosterchat” / agree


AdoptResources
Feeling a bit hyper trying to keep up with #adoptfosterchat ; )


BAAFAdoption
@Memma_Pie @PottiJo The aim to place babies within 6 mths and then with a carefully thought-through plan of introductions#adoptfosterchat


confessionsmum
@adopdad #adoptfosterchat being an adopte the worse thing is when people assume I'm from another planet just because I was adopted


AdoptResources
@swampymarsh I agree one of the hardest parts of the process#adoptfosterchat


Theresauno
@jj2008ed Dn't think it is something you can push, more about facilitating through play, positive praise, encouragement etc#adoptfosterchat


AdoptResources
@adopdad best thing-watching them grow + develop into amazing people #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
@jj2008ed Think thru a range of strategies to support 4 yr old- including materials available.Such as: http://bit.ly/jYSbwA#adoptfosterchat


swampymarsh
@ins_foundations assessment takes time. Waiting for placement the hardest part my friends found 18 mnths and still waiting#adoptfosterchat


AdoptResources
@jj2008ed do you have any time you can have 1to1 with 2yo? Lots of play, tactile things, easy stuff with easy rules #adoptfosterchat


ins_foundations
@bizzylizzyme Completely agree #adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
@BAAFAdoption @Memma_Pie The court process is often where the delays are #adoptfosterchat


bizzylizzyme
Best thing about adoption? My lovely son, of course! Adoption is the very best & hardest thing I have ever done! #adoptfosterchat


ins_foundations
Agree that the length of the process is appaling! 1st time took me 20 months, 2nd time I am 2 years in and still not close#adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
Welcome, all newcomers! #adoptfosterchat


PottiJo
@BAAFAdoption I've found that my adoption experiences have been useful on the adoption panel I sit on. #adoptfosterchat


jj2008ed
#adoptfosterchat any advice on settling in / promoting attachment with 2yr old with current 4 yr old who we adopted as a baby


CazbatTweets
@adopdad Most positive thing is they have gifts you can only dream of. My kids are sporty #adoptfosterchat


adopdad
Ok what's the best /positive thing about adoption? ( it's a bit like that q why do you want to adopt) #adoptfosterchat


CazbatTweets
Hello. Two adopted sibs here. 5 1/2 yrs & 16 months adopted 10 yrs ago #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
@adopdad Go ahead! #adoptfosterchat


adopdad
@BAAFAdoption Have you any questions or would you like us to start #adoptfosterchat


Theresauno
#adoptfosterchat Hi all, am glad to be here too. T


BAAFAdoption
@QuiverFullMummy You don't need a quesion, just tell us about your experiences :) #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
@Memma_Pie Do you mean length of time to place a child? Or length of time for assessment to adopt? #adoptfosterchat


bizzylizzyme
Hello! #adoptfosterchat


AdoptResources
Sitting in the garden and following #adoptfosterchat


spursblogger
Good evening everybody. Thanks to BAAF people for hosting. I'm mainly fostering these days but happy to help where I can#adoptfosterchat


ins_foundations
@BAAFAdoption Hi, very pleased to be part of #adoptfosterchat


BAAFAdoption
Don't forget to tag your tweets with #adoptfosterchat if you have any questions for our expert. But be nice - she's feeling nervous!


BAAFAdoption
Hi all. Welcome to first every #adoptfosterchat hosted by @BAAFAdoption!


Thank you to everyone who took part - it was a real success! The next #adoptfosterchat will take place Tuesday, May 31 between 7pm and 8pm and will focus on foster care.


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