Wednesday, 29 June 2011

Chat to us on Twitter about gay and lesbian adoption

Last night we invited all those out there who are experienced in - or seeking advice about - gay and lesbian adoption to join us and the guys at New Family Social for a live Twitter Chat.

All those who took part tagged their tweets with #adoptfosterchat - read on below for a transcript of the event (most recent tweets appear first).


sueatkins
RT @AdoptResources: Check @BAAFAdoption blog tomorrow http://bit.ly/977pnx for a round-up of tonight's #adoptfosterchat

raygumbley
RT @Lauzthegeek: @iamsocialwork check out the #adoptfosterchat!

gayadoptionuk
RT @Tillymint2u: #adoptfosterchat goodnight from me, good luck to everyone about to embark on the journey, thanks to adoption we have an amazing family :)

GoodnightBot
RT @Tillymint2u #adoptfosterchat goodnight from me, good luck to everyone about to embark on the journey, thanks... http://bit.ly/kbJ3pr

Tillymint2u
#adoptfosterchat goodnight from me, good luck to everyone about to embark on the journey, thanks to adoption we have an amazing family :)

gayadoptionuk
RT @Lawsey1974: I enjoyed taking part in the #adoptfosterchat I never tire talking about adoption. best thing we ever did.

Lawsey1974
I enjoyed taking part in the #adoptfosterchat I never tire talking about adoption. best thing we ever did.

Tillymint2u
@Lawsey1974 Me too #adoptfosterchat

Lawsey1974
@LauzTheGeek @Tillymint2u chose LA as felt more supported. Working with expert social workers & family workers #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
@LauzTheGeek that's what I meant really, when the LA can't find a family for a child they look to agencies to help. #adoptfosterchat

Lawsey1974
@ehayles met kids in April 09 & they moved in after 2 weeks of intros. Training talks about children who need families etc #adoptfosterchat

ehayles
Lol! Have closed my alert about phone battery five times because of all the great advice I want to read! #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
see our selection of books: http://cot.ag/jo0plZ #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
Thanks @BAAFAdoption @gayadoptionuk for #adoptfosterchat Gud luck all those thinkin/goin n gone thru the process. T*

gayadoptionuk
RT @Lauzthegeek: @BAAFAdoption @gayadoptionuk Thanks for a really useful #adoptfosterchat. Hope to see lots more LGBT carers coming forward!

liberalmama
@Theresauno #adoptfosterchat Good idea. I'll look. Thanks!

liberalmama
@BAAFAdoption Thank you!! I've been searching for a children's book. Too advanced for my 3y/o but will help. #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
Blimey, it's gone 8! Thanks to @BAAFAdoption and everyone who joined us. I'll still be around for a bit... #adoptfosterchat

AdoptResources
Check @BAAFAdoption blog tomorrow http://bit.ly/977pnx for a round-up of tonight's #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
@Theresauno @LauzTheGeek Got blog post u myt b interested in http://t.co/bQGGOrz Good luck T* #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
Thanks to all who joined us - especially @gayadoptionuk! #adoptfosterchat

liberalmama
@TorDocherty Cld u share if u ever find any writing on it? Foster training didn't discuss at all. #adoptfosterchat

ehayles
Do you get a lot of Ethnic minority adopters or fosters? Very closed question but just out of interest. #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
Right all, it's goodnight from us - please check the blog tomorrow http://bit.ly/977pnx for a round-up of tonight's chat! #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
@LauzTheGeek LA's place all children that they can they pass them on to agencies when they become hard to place, true? #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
If you are considering adoption, do join NFS for advice, or give us a call: http://cot.ag/kmrOtQ #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
@LauzTheGeek Sorry Laura, think u myt have misunderstood. I am heterosexual bt have fostered kids to a same-sex couple #adoptfosterchat

AdoptResources
"@gayadoptionuk: There is huge positivity in our group-lots of families choosing adoption as a first option-and it shows #adoptfosterchat"

BAAFAdoption
@liberalmama This children's book may help: http://bit.ly/jtCaom #adoptfosterchat

AdoptResources
"@BAAFAdoption: If anyone needs further help, info or advice: http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat"

gayadoptionuk
There is huge positivity in our group - lots of families choosing adoption as a first option - and it shows #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
More books here: http://bit.ly/kQio2A #adoptfosterchat #gay #lesbian #adoption

Theresauno
@liberalmama Might b sumthin around foster children n bio children avail. Cud b helpful? similar for children 2 cope wiv. #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
If anyone needs further help, info or advice: http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat

henriettabond
RT @BAAFAdoption: RT @gayadoptionuk: @Lawsey1974 The bad stories are getting fewer&fewer - good experiences r givin social workers confidence #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@Joe_Dow that sounds like a good plan - full day / overnight experience is good if poss. #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
@LauzTheGeek L.A. 17yrs..feel like I have a bit of an affinity for them..altho I do wonder why sumtyms! Lol! #adoptfosterchat

ehayles
@Theresauno awww you are right! Hopefully a great match for all of us :-) #adoptfosterchat

AdoptResources
A bit late to the party... Just joining #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
@LauzTheGeek our SW is great, we've known her 3 years now and she feels like a friend, always been very easy to talk to #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@Joe_Dow Hard to say a minimum... but it really helps you prepare, and also gives "brownie points" at matching stage #adoptfosterchat

liberalmama
Wondering if anyone has book blog or other suggestions on issue of bio & adopted children in same home.Not finding much. #adoptfosterchat

AdoptResources
RT @BAAFAdoption: Great real-life story in our book store - 'Is it true you have two mums?' http://bit.ly/knOSWs #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
@Joe_Dow Difficult to be precise - more about what meaningful experience u get that will prepare u for caring for a child #adoptfosterchat

Joe_Dow
#adoptfosterchat just signed up for some voluntary work at a nursery. How many hours/days experience is enough to help with process?

BAAFAdoption
@TorDocherty But exciting too?! #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
@LauzTheGeek I'm a foster carer bt thought the s.w., adopters n self all worked really well 2gether for the children.#adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
RT @Theresauno: @ehayles I'm sure it will b a roller-coaster ride but with something very precious at the end. #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
@ehayles I'm sure it will b a roller-coaster ride but with something very precious at the end. #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
@ehayles we were very lucky 1 month to be matched on both occasions, 13 months from 1st enq to meeting No. 1 #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
@ehayles Experience of working w/ children will stand u in good stead in application process #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
@BAAFAdoption ours are still very young, they'll always know they're adopted but dreading the day of deeper questions #adoptfosterchat

iamsocialwork
RT @Lauzthegeek: @iamsocialwork check out the #adoptfosterchat!

gayadoptionuk
@ehayles Keep your options open - but make sure you do what's right for you. #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@ehayles definately talk to other adopters in considering ages, siblings etc. #adoptfosterchat

Lawsey1974
@ehayles @ehayles Actually 14 mths is quite quick. That was from 1st phonecall to them moving in #adoptfosterchat

Lawsey1974
@ehayles Actually 14 mths is quite quick. It only takes 9 to grow a baby. That was from 1st phonecall to them moving in #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
@BAAFAdoption I'm reviewing that book for our LA adoption newsletter, with having a newish arrival I haven't got far at all #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
@ehayles I've known adopters who have waited 2 years or more to be matched wiv the right child bt still said very worth it #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
@ehayles LAs have obligation to assess for adoption support. Support given will be based on needs of child #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@ehayles amongst families in our group 3-5 is prob average - but lots of under 2's and over 6's too #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
Great real-life story in our book store - 'Is it true you have two mums?' http://bit.ly/knOSWs #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
have a look at these blogs for more expriences: http://cot.ag/kEVed6 #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
@ehayles After age of 9/10 it tends to be more difficult for children to become adopted #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
@Tillymint2u Glad u had a positive experience with the f.c.s too.It makes it much easier for everyone. #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@ehayles 8 months would be for assessment only - matching could be a month... or 2 years or more #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
@Lawsey1974 Tha's gr8, glad f.c.s were supportive too can b difficult tym for them. I am one..Lol! #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
“@Tillymint2u: @ltwhit I think they hold an extra special place in their hearts, so completely accepted :)” #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@ltwhit Our son is absolutely doted on by grandparents! Even if parents aren't sure at first, they tend to come round. #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
@ehayles Cld b 2 yrs to b assessed & have placement but shouldn't take that long for assessment (gov recommends 8 mths) #adoptfosterchat

ltwhit
#adoptfosterchat interested to know people's family reactions. Are the children accepted & loved as grandkids and nieces and nephews etc? :)

gayadoptionuk
@ehayles 14 months is actually quite quick! Between that and 2 years is average #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
I'd agree wiv tht.Adopters of my children have always met bio parents n said it's bin difficult bt worthwhile 4 all. #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
@steab84 only indirect letter box contact, we've written to them but haven't received anything back, but didn't expect to #adoptfosterchat

sfakhro
RT @gayadoptionuk: @stonewalluk Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

BAAFAdoption
@Lawsey1974 Enjoy! #adoptfosterchat

Lawsey1974
@baafadoption have to go play football in garden with son. Will answer any tweets when back. #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@steab84 Adopters I know have been pleased to have met birth parents.. helps make connections and good for the children #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@LauzTheGeek SW's shoudn't be afraid of exploring issues around sexuality... http://bit.ly/fw9v7s #adoptfosterchat

steab84
#adoptfosterchat another question from me. Anyone had experience with contact from biological parents? Good or bad? Thanks

BAAFAdoption
@Joe_Dow Usually from when they make first enquiry. Gov may measure from when app lodged w/ agency #adoptfosterchat

CorpDC
RT @BAAFAdoption: RT @Lawsey1974: @lpnolan @BAAFAdoption Process took 13mths total. u go through it like everyone else.We were placed quickly #adoptfosterchat

Joe_Dow
#adoptfosterchat when people say the process took x number of months..what are you counting as the starting point? After the prep group?

Lawsey1974
@ehayles @baafadoption Thanks. A boy 8 and girl 6, been with us 2 1/2 years. They're wonderful. Took 14 months total #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@ehayles I know plenty of adopters in flats - you just need a room to spare! #adoptfosterchat

Lawsey1974
@BAAFAdoption @gayadoptionuk We're in Manchester & used Salford LA, they have v high number of LGBT adopters I think #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
You are welcome to join our 450 LGBT families & families-to-be who share advice & experience: http://cot.ag/lgeVX4 #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
@ehayles You won't be ruled out for living in a flat - make contact & start the process :) #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
@Lawsey1974 we are LA, they were great, we were very open about everything from outset, I gather some couples hold back #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
RT @gayadoptionuk: @Lawsey1974 The bad stories are getting fewer&fewer - good experiences r givin social workers confidence #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
@Lawsey1974 Can always call our helplines if you need advice: http://bit.ly/mFGCam #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@Lawsey1974 The bad stories are getting fewer and fewer - good experiences are giving social workers confidence #adoptfosterchat

steab84
#adoptfosterchat thank you, will pass the info on :)

BAAFAdoption
More in-depth info & advice in Pink Guide to Adoption: http://bit.ly/juV4M4 #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
@Theresauno our foster carers were both great, very supportive, it was a worry going into it though #adoptfosterchat

Lawsey1974
@BAAFAdoption @Tillymint2u Fab! I love positive stories. heard some bad ones though, not sure why some have a tough time #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@steab84 It will differ from agency to agency, but q's would prob focus on how you are as a couple #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
@steab84 hi, ours were asked, how we'd cope, experience with other kids, what families thought, how strong our relationship #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
RT @Lawsey1974: @lpnolan @BAAFAdoption Process took 13mths total. u go through it like everyone else.We were placed quickly #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
@steab84 Personal refs confidential&applicants don't c them bt aim is 2 verify the self-reported info that applicants given #adoptfosterchat

ltwhit
Joining @ehayles to look at #adoptfosterchat

steab84
#adoptfosterchat hi, we are both starting the process. My question is about references, our friends who we have (cont) http://tl.gd/bdld9m

Lawsey1974
@lpnolan @BAAFAdoption BY that I mean the children were living with us by then #adoptfosterchat

Lawsey1974
@lpnolan @BAAFAdoption Process took us 13 months in total. You go through it like everyone else. We were placed quickly #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
RT @Tillymint2u: @BAAFAdoption hi, we've adopted our first and are in the process of adopting our second,all been positive #adoptfosterchat

steab84
#adoptfosterchat hi, we are both starting the process. My question is about references, our friends who we have (cont) http://tl.gd/bdlcqb

BAAFAdoption
@LauzTheGeek Both are a great way to start your adoption journey - both have same regulations & guidance #adoptfosterchat

Tillymint2u
@BAAFAdoption hi, we've adopted our first and are in the process of adopting our second, it's all been positive #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
@Lawsey1974 @BAAFAdoption Gr8 to hear it went so well for you. Can I ask, did u feel supported by the foster carers? T* #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
@Lawsey1974 That's good to hear - I have adopted one and hope to start again soon for another! #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
@Lawsey1974 Great to hear a positive story! #adoptfosterchat

Lawsey1974
@BAAFAdoption ok. We're two mums & have 2 adopted kids and we felt extremely well supported by LA. #adoptfosterchat Best thing we ever did

BAAFAdoption
Yup - chat, share experiences, ask Qs - but put #adoptfosterchat on your tweet :)

Lawsey1974
@BAAFAdoption @gayadoptionuk how does this work? do we just chat and put #adoptfosterchat after everything?

gayadoptionuk
Hello and welcome from us too... #adoptfosterchat

Theresauno
Hi...... #adoptfosterchat

BAAFAdoption
Hi all - welcome to the LGBT #adoptfosterchat! Our (slightly nervous) expert is here if you need him and we're also joined by @gayadoptionuk

learymay
RT @Theresauno: If u are interested, don't forget 2 join in @BAAFAdoption 7pm for GLBT adoption chat. add #adoptfosterchat to take part.

Theresauno
If u are interested, don't forget 2 join in @BAAFAdoption 7pm for GLBT adoption chat. add #adoptfosterchat to take part.

spikej77
RT @gayadoptionuk: @stonewalluk Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

Lawsey1974
RT @gayadoptionuk: @lgfoundation Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

gismotigga
RT @gayadoptionuk: @stonewalluk Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

Katf25
RT @gayadoptionuk: @stonewalluk Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

LizzieMansfield
RT @gayadoptionuk: @stonewalluk Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

TACTCare
RT @BAAFAdoption: A reminder that you can follow #adoptfosterchat live here: http://bit.ly/h7qn9v Just over an hour to go!

TCblahblahblah
RT @gayadoptionuk: @stonewalluk Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

horsemusic
RT @gayadoptionuk: @stonewalluk Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

BAAFAdoption
A reminder that you can follow #adoptfosterchat live here: http://bit.ly/h7qn9v Just over an hour to go!

stonewalluk
RT @gayadoptionuk: @stonewalluk Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

learymay
RT @gayadoptionuk: @stonewalluk Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

GayTheatreNYC
RT @gayadoptionuk: @lgfoundation Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

di_erskine
RT @gayadoptionuk: @lgfoundation Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

brookgrahamltd
RT @gayadoptionuk: @lgfoundation Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

gismotigga
RT @gayadoptionuk: @lgfoundation Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

lgfoundation
RT @gayadoptionuk: @lgfoundation Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

gayadoptionuk
@AttitudeMag Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

gayadoptionuk
@DIVAmagazine Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

gayadoptionuk
@GayTimesMag Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

gayadoptionuk
@lgfoundation Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

gayadoptionuk
@stonewalluk Please RT! LGBT #adoptfosterchat tonight at 7pm with us and @BAAFAdoption : http://cot.ag/lJfswE

BAAFAdoption
RT @aslongasittakes: Big shout out to @BAAFAdoption & @gayadoptionuk ahead of their #adoptfosterchat tonight http://t.co/UZSk2b3

gayadoptionuk
RT @aslongasittakes: Big shout out to @BAAFAdoption & @gayadoptionuk ahead of their #adoptfosterchat tonight http://t.co/UZSk2b3

aslongasittakes
Big shout out to @BAAFAdoption & @gayadoptionuk ahead of their #adoptfosterchat tonight http://t.co/UZSk2b3

Theresauno
@aslongasittakes Yr welcome. Hope to 'speak' 2 u 2night if u r joinin @BAAFAdoption #adoptfosterchat T*

henriettabond
RT @spursblogger: RT @BAAFAdoption: Only 4 hours til #gay and #lesbian #adoptfosterchat!

spursblogger
RT @BAAFAdoption: Only 4 hours til #gay and #lesbian #adoptfosterchat!

A_Bell_With_VL
RT @BAAFAdoption: Only 4 hours til #gay and #lesbian #adoptfosterchat!

BAAFAdoption
Only 4 hours til #gay and #lesbian #adoptfosterchat!

spursblogger
@BAAFAdoption you're welcome. Prob cant join you for #adoptfosterchat this eve. Hope it goes well

Theresauno
Thank-you for comment on blog @BAAFAdoption Looking forward to 'speaking' with u tonight. #adoptfosterchat T*

BAAFAdoption
We now have a live box thingy on our blog where u can watch tonight's live #adoptfosterchat! www.baaf.org.uk/blog - it's on the right!

BAAFAdoption
Morning tweeps! Looking forward to #adoptfosterchat tonight with @gayadoptionuk? http://bit.ly/kVmzBf

learymay
RT @gayadoptionuk: #adoptfosterchat tonight, 7-8pm, with us & @BAAFAdoption http://cot.ag/lJfswE #gay #adoption please RT /via Andy

danielfrench
RT @gayadoptionuk: #adoptfosterchat tonight, 7-8pm, with us & @BAAFAdoption http://cot.ag/lJfswE #gay #adoption please RT /via Andy

Theresauno
Join @BAAFAdoption tonight, 28th, 7-8pm #gay #lesbian adoption chat http://t.co/ZxmJmKK (my view http://t.co/3YVfLGO ) #adoptfosterchat

gayadoptionuk
#adoptfosterchat tonight, 7-8pm, with us & @BAAFAdoption http://cot.ag/lJfswE #gay #adoption please RT /via Andy

BAAFAdoption
RT @Lauzthegeek: Lookin 4ward to lesbian & gay #adoptfosterchat @BAAFAdoption. Currently writing my SW dissertation on it! Pls help if u can! @gayadoptionuk


For more info and advice about gay adoption, head to the BAAF website. Details about our Pink Guide to Adoption and real-life story Is it true you have two mums? can be found on the BAAF online bookstore.





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