Thursday, 15 December 2011

The Truth About Adoption: your thoughts

Last night, BBC One aired the Panorama Special: The Truth About Adoption. The documentary provoked some strong reactions online during the hour - here we present some of your thoughts. If you missed the show, you can catch up on BBC iPlayer now.


@GillianMcShane
Omg. Just omg. #truthaboutadoption

@BAAfAdoption
V honest depiction of adoption starting now on BBC One. #panorama #truthaboutadoption

@kevindcraig
Recently attend excellent Family RIghts Group Annual Dinner & supportive of fosterers - so gripped by #BBC1 #Panorama -#TruthAboutAdoption

@JWilliamson1234
Beautiful kids #truthaboutadoption

@AlishaBhavika
watching the #truthaboutadoption - man its so sad.

@seasparkle_x
Are you honestly telling me they would not consider new parents for these girls if they won't get a dog?? #truthaboutadoption

@miconm
Think Panorama on #truthaboutadoption is going to upset me & be difficult viewing...

@mumscoffeeclub
@seasparkle_x #truthaboutadoption madness this is scary!

@langtry_girl
This mother looks absolutely /stunned/.....#truthaboutadoption

@janetmarland
40% more kids taken into care since Baby P but no increase in social workers to address kids' needs -shocking #panorama #truthaboutadoption

@Helencakefiend
Oh god the parents whose kids are being adopted.... just cos you can't look after them doesn't mean you don't love them. #truthaboutadoption

@alistair_sloan
Some of this is heartbreaking ##truthaboutadoption

@kirstyhalton
No records? This makes no sense - how is anyone supposed to learn anything #adoptionbreakdown #truthaboutadoption

@Em_and_Lola
65,000 kids in Care in this country. This is terrible. These kids deserve love, families & secure homes. #truthaboutadoption

@spursblogger
So far honest, realistic portrayal of dilemmas, struggles, heartbreak and joy of fostering and adoption #truthaboutadoption

@BAAFAdoption
Need info/advice about adoption? Visit http://www.baaf.org.uk/info/advice #panoroma #truthaboutadoption

@kristalsmile
No child of that little boys age should have to be taught the concept of abandonment #truthaboutadoption :(

@Helencakefiend
I know I could love a child I didn't give birth to just as much as I could my own flesh and blood. #truthaboutadoption

@rolo_d
These foster carers are heroes #truthaboutadoption

@Grumpyhatlady
adoption is such a complex issue, its never straightforward. Everyone is a victim in so many cases. So sad #truthaboutadoption

@educationgovuk
As tonight's @bbcpanorama shows, we need more people to come forward to adopt http://bit.ly/sEU3qe #truthaboutadoption

@CathyAshley
If you are a birth parent of a child in care-free FRG advice service www.frg.org.uk 08088010366 9.30am-3.30pm #truthaboutadoption #Panorama

@itsmotherswork
@tahmidurahman: #truthaboutadoption these kids can handle so much more than I would be able to, so strong” << They don't have a choice. @JoLibrariAnne
Reading over-sentimentalised tweets. Folk mean well bt have little idea about the reality of living w an adopted child #truthaboutadoption

@kathwoolf
Must have more support for vulnerable women with learning difficulties to try to prevent more #adoption tragedies #TruthAboutAdoption

@HNightingale
@BAAFAdoption confirmed to us how broken the system really is. Been waiting 2 years, nearly there now but could still breakdown.

@WELSHPAULA2
@BAAFAdoption absolutley heartbreaking I'm an adopted adult I'm so lucky #truthaboutadoption

@stewartdarkin
@BAAFAdoption I thought it was good - representative and moving. But I wonder what viewers with no knowledge of adoption made of it.

@jaseR32
@BAAFAdoption it broke me

@stewartdarkin
@BAAFAdoption BTW, a breakdown after THREE YEARS? Unimaginable trauma for those kids and their ability to form attachments. Very sad,

@Theresauno
@BAAFAdoption V gud prog 2 hi-light need for more adopters. It did nt cover difficult subjects - challenging behaviours/sexual abuse bt

@Theresauno
@BAAFAdoption showed how resilient sum children r even when facin v difficult/upsetting times. Got ppl talkin/realising wot children go thru

@Theresauno
@BAAFAdoption It also hi-lighted the fact that not all birth families r 'bad' ppl n how difficult the whole process is for every1 concerned


If you need help or advice about adoption, please call our free advice line on 0800 652 9626. Lines are open 9am-1pm Monday to Friday during December. Alternatively, visit the BAAF website.






1 comment:

Will said...

It seemed to me, as someone just going through the initial stages of adoption training, that it was *a* truth, but not *the* truth, in that it seemed to focus very much on delays in the system, when those are only one issue.

Reading between the lines, it seems that the three children whose adoption broke down after three years might have quite serious (off-camera) issues that contributed to the breakdown. (There was a brief mention that the two "experienced" foster carers were finding them almost impossible to handle).

If so, most of those problems are probably the result of the initial neglect they suffered from their birth parents (causing attachment problems), together with the trauma of being taken into care.

i.e. If they had been adopted six months after being taken into care rather than two years, is there still a chance that the same thing might have happened?

Needless delays are obviously bad. But personally, I'd rather that social workers and foster carers took the time to prepare children fully for adoption and find the right adoptive parents for them, with the aim of minimising the rate of breakdown.

Focussing purely on the time taken seems to me like a hospital performing an operation in which 20% of the patients die, but with them focusing entirely on getting the waiting time for a particular operation down, and not making any effort whatsoever to lower the mortality rate.

I would judge local authorities on two statistics:

1) What % of their children in care get *successfully* adopted.

2) What % of their children in care are unlucky enough to suffer an adoption breakdown.

If an authority can get get results on those by increasing the time taken, then good for them!

And I have to say, that the most shocking thing about this programme for me was that no national statistics are kept/collated on breakdown rates. I find that amazing and quite worrying. Surely we want to be researching this, looking at those local authorities with low rates and finding out why?

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